Subconscious Bias!!

A few days back while talking to my brother, he shared a incident of a well educated Punjabi guy who carries the perception that "Odisha mein sab Adivasi hote hai". As per the current political scenario our President is from Odisha and is Tribal. Our current CM is also Tribal.  So, he carries this bias towards Odisha as a whole. He has never been to Odisha and never have come across what it is, all he knows is from his own perception. 

In one of my leadership training there was a chapter on Cultural Biases and how as a leader you need to overcome this to work with people from different countries and continents. Consiously or unconsciously we all carry some biases with us. In work place everyone experiences it a little. Since, its a work setup we do manage things without getting involved much in this zone. However, when it comes to  staying with roommates or leading a life with a person who comes from another state, caste or religion, we see a lot of biases.

Take for example Anant Ambani and Radhika Merchant wedding. Oh no its not the bias of religion or caste but of body shaming.  Internet is flooding with memes of them because he is fat. Some are calling Radhika a gold digger and some are sharing how hilarious their honeymoon would be. Who knows what is it in Anant that Radhika liked? Its not like girls don't see a man's physique or value only money. They see both but how you fall in love also matters. Pyar itna soch samjh ke hota hai kya?? Bas ho jata hai. This is our unconscious bias is not it.. Ladka kala hai, mota hai toh ladki gold digger. Ladki ki moti hai, naati hai toh ladka pata nahi kya?? What so ever you call him..

Or take for example Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's wedding. So, many biases right. It went up to such a extend for them that he gave up his royal title to lead a normal life with her. Or this actress Sonakshi Sinha marrying Zaheer Iqbal. Trolling and mocking them for their choices.. is not it a way to give them a bit of suffering? 

When I read and hear about these I just feel how we are taught to overcome biases and how life turns out for them who actually choose to lead a life in spite of knowing these with a partner with some differences. Life is suffering, we all suffer. Whether you come from affluent family or be a Royal yourself ... life is not easy for anyone. We make our choices to make it easy but someway or the other we suffer. 

And love is beautiful ... these couples choose to be with their love, in spite of what society call them.