"This morning, a college friend called me in distress. She's been unwell for 18 days, yet her family hasn't sought medical attention. This deeply troubled me.
The "good girl" label seems to come with a heavy price. Does her existence only matter within the confines of serving others? Is she merely a vessel for fulfilling familial obligations? Societal norms dictate that women shouldn't return to their parents' home after marriage unless facing dire circumstances. Yet, do these maternal homes truly provide the support they should? Where is the compassion from parents and siblings?
After marriage, a woman often becomes solely dependent on her husband's support. What happens when that support falters? Does she become invisible, forgotten by everyone? Her own parents may utter words that exacerbate her depression, while siblings, burdened by their own families, offer little solace.
She's trapped by the need to maintain family reputation, unable to openly express her pain. What does this "good girl" tag truly offer her? In today's world, basic human rights are still violated within families. A woman's well-being is often contingent on luck and privilege, not on her inherent value.
My friend poured her heart out to me, her voice filled with the anguish of loneliness and lack of support. I urged her to seek medical help independently, to break free from the cycle of dependence. But whose fault is it truly? Why are women conditioned from childhood to prioritize obedience over self-reliance? Why aren't they empowered to become independent? And why doesn't her husband actively support her growth?
It's a deeply unjust system that expects women to thrive without the necessary support and encouragement."
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