Monday, September 8, 2014

Is it easy to forgive? How to make it easier?

Hi Readers,

After a long time again I am back with an emotional subject "Forgiveness". Is it easy to forgive? Please ask yourself is it easy? We have judiciary system in place which ensures punishment for any wrong deed. Then where is forgiveness.

Forgiveness is talked about when someone does wrong to you, have hurt you badly. It could be anyone but the subject is mostly emotional. It has no materialistic object attached to it. Someone be it your parent, sibling, friend or a companion who has broken the soft line of trust, there it is expected that you forgive that individual and move ahead peacefully.

We need to forgive someone not for that individual but for our self, because that liberates from a burden. It is always easier said than done.  When an individual realizes their mistake and ensures he/she apologize for the same, it becomes easier for the other individual to forgive. But, when someone hurts you, but behaves as if it was alright, then it becomes really very difficult to forgive.

In today's age as we are becoming impatient and  vulnerable to not take a NO as an answer, forgiveness is also not coming to us easily. But, we all make mistakes.We make mistakes, but do we apologize? When we sincerely apologize before someone, that person certainly feels good, a little better that you have at-least realized your mistake. Just like touching someone's feet in Indian custom or greeting someone as you meet, make the other individual to bless you or to suppress their anger. In a similar way when you seek forgiveness, when you offer sincere apology, it reduces the pain you have caused in first place. The person might not immediately forgive, but definitely would take your apology and would feel better than before.

Speaking logically, we have judiciary system which ensures punishment  for wrong deeds mostly materialistic, but in case of emotions, there is no such rule to punish anyone. Only thing is it can rule a separation. But, separation does not punish anyone. If at all it punishes, it is for both individual. Emotions cannot be counted with money, so what would be the best punishment. Is this not a flaw in judiciary? And how do we decide what affects whom. How can we decide on behalf of other that which is less or more painful. As a society we could not come up with a better solution for emotional harm. We human beings with all powerful brain , could not come up with a better solution. So ,we have made this forgiveness. You have just two choice, live with a grudge or forgive. Even if you are the mightiest creature on earth, what can you do to a fellow creature who have wronged you? Our system demands proves, something as subtle as emotion seems to have no value. But, this subtle feeling, causes the most suffering.

You need not have to carry the grudge around, because you have not done anything wrong. Even if its tough, you have to slowly move away from that person, you have to divert your mind, you have to find peace somewhere with something or someone. It can still come back to you anytime, but gradually it just makes you feel uneasy for a certain period of time and then you are alright again.

But, yes once you have been hurt emotionally, never do the same to anyone else. Because, you are the best person who knows very well how painful it is. Never give that suffering to anyone consciously. Do not let anyone feel similar pain just because of you. If you have hurt someone, immediately seek forgiveness. Live peacefully and spread happiness.

Thank you.


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