Is it easy to forgive? How to make it easier?

Hi Readers,

After a long time again I am back with an emotional subject "Forgiveness". Is it easy to forgive? Please ask yourself is it easy? We have judiciary system in place which ensures punishment for any wrong deed. Then where is forgiveness.

Forgiveness is talked about when someone does wrong to you, have hurt you badly. It could be anyone but the subject is mostly emotional. It has no materialistic object attached to it. Someone be it your parent, sibling, friend or a companion who has broken the soft line of trust, there it is expected that you forgive that individual and move ahead peacefully.

We need to forgive someone not for that individual but for our self, because that liberates from a burden. It is always easier said than done.  When an individual realizes their mistake and ensures he/she apologize for the same, it becomes easier for the other individual to forgive. But, when someone hurts you, but behaves as if it was alright, then it becomes really very difficult to forgive.

In today's age as we are becoming impatient and  vulnerable to not take a NO as an answer, forgiveness is also not coming to us easily. But, we all make mistakes.We make mistakes, but do we apologize? When we sincerely apologize before someone, that person certainly feels good, a little better that you have at-least realized your mistake. Just like touching someone's feet in Indian custom or greeting someone as you meet, make the other individual to bless you or to suppress their anger. In a similar way when you seek forgiveness, when you offer sincere apology, it reduces the pain you have caused in first place. The person might not immediately forgive, but definitely would take your apology and would feel better than before.

Speaking logically, we have judiciary system which ensures punishment  for wrong deeds mostly materialistic, but in case of emotions, there is no such rule to punish anyone. Only thing is it can rule a separation. But, separation does not punish anyone. If at all it punishes, it is for both individual. Emotions cannot be counted with money, so what would be the best punishment. Is this not a flaw in judiciary? And how do we decide what affects whom. How can we decide on behalf of other that which is less or more painful. As a society we could not come up with a better solution for emotional harm. We human beings with all powerful brain , could not come up with a better solution. So ,we have made this forgiveness. You have just two choice, live with a grudge or forgive. Even if you are the mightiest creature on earth, what can you do to a fellow creature who have wronged you? Our system demands proves, something as subtle as emotion seems to have no value. But, this subtle feeling, causes the most suffering.

You need not have to carry the grudge around, because you have not done anything wrong. Even if its tough, you have to slowly move away from that person, you have to divert your mind, you have to find peace somewhere with something or someone. It can still come back to you anytime, but gradually it just makes you feel uneasy for a certain period of time and then you are alright again.

But, yes once you have been hurt emotionally, never do the same to anyone else. Because, you are the best person who knows very well how painful it is. Never give that suffering to anyone consciously. Do not let anyone feel similar pain just because of you. If you have hurt someone, immediately seek forgiveness. Live peacefully and spread happiness.

Thank you.

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Mile Sur Mera tumhara

Hi Readers,

This song " Mile sur mera tumhara" used to be my favorite song in childhood. People born in 80's and 90's would remember the song being telecast-ed in DoorDashan. Even though I did not knew which lines belong to which region and language, I used to remember whole of the song. Though, I might not pronounce whole of it correctly, I could get the lyrics correct.
 Only thing that disappointed me was the Odia part was presented by tribal people. My disappointment was because people of other region were shown in their traditional attires, and Odisha is also recognized for its hand-loom and typical way of draping saree. Then why they had to choose tribal people with a bamboo hat. It is also not that majority of Odia belongs to tribal community. I have shared the image for Odia below. Well, I have nothing against Tribals, and if they wanted to include them in this song, its well and good. Well, whatever it is the song and the lyrics are beautiful. Here, is the lyrics for you all. We now have newer version of same song, with modern Indian's in its visual. I love this song and on every republic day and Independence day, I think of getting to hear this song again on TV when I switch it on.

Mile Sur Mera Tumhara
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(Hindi) Mile sur mera tumharaa, to sur bane hamaraa....
Sur kee nadhiyaan har disha se behke saagar mein milee...
Baadalon ka roop lekar barsen halke halke...
Mile sur mera tumharaa.. toh... sur bane hamaara..
Mile sur mera tumhara...

(Kashmiri) Chaain taraj tahin nyay taraj
Ek but baniye saayen taraj

(Punjabi) Tera sur mile mere sur de naal
Milke bane ek nava surtaal

(Hindi) Mile sur mera tumharaa....
To sur bane hamaara..

(Sindhi) Mohnja sur tohi desa pyara mile jadein
Geet ashaanjo madhur tarano bane tadein

(Urdu) Sur ka dariya behke saagar me mile
(Punjabi)Badlaan da roop leike barasan hole hole

(Tamil) Isaindhal namm iruvarin suramum namadhakum..
Dhisai veru aanalum aariser aarugal
Mugilai mazaiyai pozivadu pol isai
...Namm isssaiiii....

Thik thakida thathikakidA....thaka thimi thaka junu
(Kannada) Nanna danige ninna daniyu,
Seridante namma daniyu..

(Telugu) Naa swaramu nee swaramu sangammamai,
Mana swaram ga avatarinchey

(Malayalam) Ente swaravum ningalude swaravum
Otthu chernnu nammude swaramai....

(Bengali) Tomaar shoor moder shoor srishti korook oikyashoor...
Tomaar shoor moder shoor srishti korook oikyashoor...

(Assamese) Srishti hok oikyatan

(Oriya) Tume mora swarara milana srishti kari chalu uchatama

(Gujarati) Male sur jo taro maro, bane aapno sur niralo

(Marathi) Majhya tumchya julta tara madhur suranchya barasti dhara

(Hindi) Sur ki nadiya har disha se behke saagar mein mile...Baadlo ka roop leke barse halke halke..
Oh...Mile sur mera tumhara tho....sur bane hamara...
Mile Sur mera tumhara
To sur bane hamara tho sur bane hamara
To sur bane hamara
.......

A simple handmade card for birthday

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 Recently, I made a very simple card for my brother. I am sharing few pictures of the same here, please leave your feedback in comment section.

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Handmade rakhi cards 2014

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Wish you a very happy Rakhsya Bandhan. This year I got very less time to prepare Rakhi cards, so could not come up with a better design for cards. But, somehow managed to make cards for my brothers. Below, I share few pics. Please leave your valuable feedback at the comment section.

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Why so much tragedy for Karna??

Hi Readers,

Once again I am back with views regarding Karna and Kunti story. Karna the tragic hero of epic Mahabharat. I follow Mahabharata serial in Star Plus. What is most amazing  fact in this serial is that they explain why Krishna play games and breaks rule of war to help Pandava's attain victory. Yesterday, Karna's life came to an end in that serial. There was nice explanation on why he was punished and why he had to undergo so much tragedy. Why supporting Dhurodhana was not correct, although Dhuryodhana helped him to get respect as an warrior. Well, some part of narration was really very beautiful and I want to jot it down here.

During the battle of Kurushetra, when Karna's cart falls in mud and his chaffeur King of Madra and maternal uncle of Nakul and Sahadeba humiliates him, at that point Krishna urges Arjuna to kill Karna. Karna wants to fight back and suddenly realizes that his talent has vanished. He has forgotten what he had learnt. Krishna reminds him of the wordings of Parshuram, who had cursed Karna for not revealing his true identity. He had cursed that when Karna would need his talent badly, at that point he will  forget what he has learnt. Karna is torn apart, he feels cheated and wanted to know why such things had to happen to him. Krishna tells Karna that he is son of the mightiest Sun God. He was born with supernatural power, still he could not do justice to it. Karna wants to know how he was wrong, and how justice was done to him. Krishna explains, that its true life was tough on him. This society did not do justice with him by not letting him use his skills, by not allowing him to be equal with other warriors just because of his birth, and his caste. However, he had the amazing power, by which he could have fought against the society and could have changed rules set by society on cast-ism. He could have liberated people like him. However, he chose to be with Dhuryodhana. Karna again wants to know why supporting Dhuryodhana was regarded as bad, when only this person helped him when he wanted to be known just for his skills and efforts. Krishna says, Dhuryodhana never helped Karna, but used Karna in his favor. Dhuryodhana never uplifted weaker sections of the society, but yes he helped Karna, to get him by his side. This opens eyes of Karna. He understands his faults. He then wants to know from Krishna if ever this world will remember him, for his strength? Krishna says, to kill Karna they need to play foul, is this not enough to prove his strength.

After, Arjuna kills Karna sunset happens. Kunti comes to battle field in search of her son Karna. All of the Pandava brothers were amazed as to why their Mother is so concern for their enemy. Arjuna asks why Kunti is concerned about Karna. Krishna says, enmity is over now you need to know the relation. He asks Arjuna to ask same question to Kunti. Kunti in battle field, shares the relationship with Karna. She says, Karna has been punished for Kunti's fault deed. Rishi Durvasa who gave Kunti boon of a powerful mantra by use of which she could be a Mother, also warned her that she should make use of it in apt situation. If the Mantra is used in haste, it will give negative effect. However, Kunti was not matured enough and just wanted to test the Mantra, which resulted in Karna's birth before her marriage.

Even though she kept this birth of Karna a secret, and had set her son Karna away, somehow she had been longing for him. When she finally got to know about Karna in a friendly competition, she had no guts to reveal the truth of Karna's birth when he was being ridiculed.

Somehow, watching this I felt, how difficult the situation would be for a girl in similar situation. Being a mother after marriage is a boon and curse when attained without marriage. Yes, society is changing, in western world this might not be the usual perception, but in India it still persist. I wanted to think of men who do this. Will situation also affect them. All men become proud father when they are married. What is their feeling when they do the same before marriage? My guess is most of the guys would have to live with a guilt that their decision landed someone in such a situation. If the girl gives birth and still they both did not get married, then he might also long to see his child. Although, exception is always there for both men and women. Some people could do all this and never realize or admit that they have not done something which was good or considered good.

The truth behind everything is things, situations and everything in general is termed good or bad depending on situation, place and most importantly by the timing. Otherwise, whats good is also bad, its just a relative term. Is not it?

"Touching Feet of elders" - Tradition or Taboo

Hi Readers,

Its general practice in Hinduism to show respect to elders by touching their feet. Touching feet also has several twist to it. In ancient Odia culture, one would do a Pranam by bending knees and placing his/her head on ground in same way as we do while praying to god. People would also follow Shastang Pranam by lying down and folding hands in Namaskar. In Rajasthani Culture, they would perform "Dhok" by sitting down and with two hands massaging legs by pressing gently and moving up and down in leg till knee. In general touching feet is followed all over India with little modification based on regions and culture.

The question is why do we touch feet? Why not some other part of body to show respect? Well, I got many interesting reads on this matter. I am trying to compile some of them below.

An act of touching the feet of our elders give's strength, intellect, knowledge and fame. There is scientific reason to back and support this conclusion.

According to modern science, a human body contains negative and positive currents of electricity. The left side of the human body carries negative current and the right side of the body has positive current. Have you observed any patient of paralysis? Right from his toe to the scalp, the body divides it self into two vertical halves and one half with his organs becomes a prey to such disease. One half of the body is invalid and the other half is active and conscious. One eye, one hand, one leg, one foot become inert; dead like with no movement, no sense, no feeling. Absolutely useless and totally immobile. This proves that each half has distinct currents – either negative or positive. Two halves together complete a circuit built of positive and negative.

At the time of bowing to our Guru, teacher, seniors and elders, we stand in front of them, facing them. The vertical body parts in that case are in the opposite direction. The left side of the Guru shall be in front of the right side of the disciple. In other words negative in front of positive. Keeping in view of this fact, our Rishis in ancient times have suggested the salute of touching feet by crossing the hands, i.e. right hand touches right foot and left hand touches left foot of our elders. Thus the positive current in both flows in an uniformed circuit and in simulate way negative flows jointly in a circuit. Thus both the currents form a well-unified circuit.

If you touch the feet of someone who harbors ill feelings towards you, they will be forced to give you a blessing. So in effect any mistake that you did to them knowingly or unknowingly will be forgiven by god. You will not be affected by their ill-will in any way too.

However, in modern day practice, we are slowly drifting from our original value. Now, saying Hello, Hi is slowly replacing Namaskar and Pranam. We are coping western cultures without any logic. we are neglecting our age-old practices considering it as a TABOO. We need to re-think about the logic behind the whole process.

Donkey in Pit

Hi Readers,

I am back after a long pause with another short story. May be most of you already know about it. However, I am still sharing it.

A Man's favorite donkey fell into a pit. The man tried his best to pull the donkey. However, he could not pull it out, no matter how hard he tries. So, decided to bury the donkey alive. He kept pouring soil from above. The donkey feels soil, shakes the soil and steps on it. More soil is poured on donkey and he shakes it off and steps up. The more load was poured the higher it raised. By following same process, finally the donkey was out of the pit and grazing in green pasture.

The moral is after shaking off(shaking problems), and rising up or stepping up(learning from problems) one would graze in Green Pasture( lead a better life).

This story is really very small one, with a good message to convey.